If you have read the two previous posts in this series (Why Work Life Balance is Misleading. and The Alternative To Work-Life Balance), you will probably have worked out that I am not a big fan of the phrase work life balance. Nor am I a fan of using it as a focus for creating the life, results and success that you really want.
It is time to stop chasing the mythical and outdated concept of work life balance. Instead, it is time to design your life on your own terms.
So, now that we have left work life balance behind, let’s move on.
Hello success by design!
If you did the exercise in The Alternative To Work-Life Balance you will have created a foundation to build success, freedom and fulfillment on (if you didn’t see that exercise pop and check it out if you want to join in the next steps).
Here is what to do next:
- Pick each role you have listed, starting with your highest priority role.
- Read what you have written down about what would make you feel really successful in this role.
- Design a boundary that protects your success criteria. Here is an example of what I mean by a boundary – my family is one of my top values. In order to protect that, one of my boundaries is that my business operates around my family life.
- Set boundaries for every role that is on your list. Important: Be as specific as you can, assume no limitations or restrictions.
Set yourself up to succeed
When you have done that, ask yourself “what actions or changes can I make to start turning this into reality?”
Don’t focus on the obstacles you may see. For example, I can’t afford to work less hours, I don’t have any support, I don’t have the skills……and so on. This mindset will hold you back.
To set yourself up to succeed start by asking questions. Questions like:
- what do I need to change or learn in my work, skills, mindset, habits etc?
- how can I improve my persoanl effectiveness to get the results I want?
- what do I need to change to create the life I really want?
You get the picture?
Ask Questions. Take actions. Measure results. Ask more questions. Take more actions. Measure results – keep repeating.
If you have carried out the suggestions in this series of three posts, don’t stop. Keep building on it. You are on the path to designing life, results and success on your own terms.
Don’t give up if the going gets tough. The rewards are high for those that stick with it!