If you have read the two previous posts in this series (Why Work Life Balance is Misleading. and The Alternative To Work-Life Balance), you will probably have worked out that I am not a big fan of the phrase work life balance. Nor am I a fan of using it as a focus for creating the life, results and success that you really want. It is time to stop chasing the mythical and outdated concept of work life balance. Instead, it is time to design your life on your own terms.

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Goodbye work life balance! Hello success by design!

Goodbye work life balance! Hello success by design!Goodbye work life balance!

If you have read the two previous posts in this series (Why Work Life Balance is Misleading. and The Alternative To Work-Life Balance), you will probably have worked out that I am not a big fan of the phrase work life balance. Nor am I a fan of using it as a focus for creating the life, results and success that you really want.

It is time to stop chasing the mythical and outdated concept of work life balance. Instead, it is time to design your life on your own terms. 

So, now that we have left work life balance behind, let’s move on.

Hello success by design!

If you did the exercise in The Alternative To Work-Life Balance you will have created a foundation to build success, freedom and fulfillment on (if you didn’t see that exercise pop and check it out if you want to join in the next steps).

Here is what to do next:

  • Pick each role you have listed, starting with your highest priority role.
  • Read what you have written down about what would make you feel really successful in this role.
  • Design a boundary that protects your success criteria. Here is an example of what I mean by a boundary – my family is one of my top values. In order to protect that, one of my boundaries is that my business operates around my family life.
  • Set boundaries for every role that is on your list. Important: Be as specific as you can, assume no limitations or restrictions.

Set yourself up to succeed

When you have done that, ask yourself “what actions or changes can I make to start turning this into reality?”

Don’t focus on the obstacles you may see. For example, I can’t afford to work less hours, I don’t have any support, I don’t have the skills……and so on. This mindset will hold you back.

To set yourself up to succeed start by asking questions. Questions like:

  • what do I need to change or learn in my work, skills, mindset, habits etc?
  • how can I improve my persoanl effectiveness to get the results I want?
  • what do I need to change to create the life I really want?

You get the picture?

Always remember:

Ask Questions. Take actions. Measure results. Ask more questions. Take more actions. Measure results – keep repeating.

If you have carried out the suggestions in this series of three posts, don’t stop. Keep building on it. You are on the path to designing life, results and success on your own terms.

Don’t give up if the going gets tough. The rewards are high for those that stick with it!

This is post 3 in a series of 3. Here is post 1 Why Work Life Balance is Misleading. Here is post 2  The Alternative To Work-Life Balance

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  • I think you make a good point Ali – if you strive for a work – life balance you're going to end up with the wrong mindset in life. If you have a fulfilling career that makes you feel great and confident than that spills over to your life. So why would you try and balance that.

    Success is about asking questions and moving forward over and over again.

    Nice post

  • Being young, the number of roles I have are limited. I also don't think of what I do for work being actual “work”. And I guess I also have trouble setting boundaries as my roles seem to mix and mingle.

  • Hi Ben, thanks for your input. Like the point you are making.

  • Great point about not seeing work as work. Key to that is to find something you love, feel passionate about and find fulfilling. Boundaries mixing and mingling is only problematic if it consistently has a negative impact on what you value most. Thanks for your input.

  • Lisa Visbeen Lehmann

    great points. i so needed to read this today. moving forward…..

  • Thanks Lisa. Delighted you found it useful.

  • ginabad

    Years ago, I read a post about how “work life balance” is a myth and why…similar to this but your post has laid it out in neat steps! Most freeing thing I ever learned!!! I refuse to go back to that “hunting for balance” thing again. Great advice!

  • I agree with you Gina – it is totally liberating to shift your mindset away from the mythical and outdated concept of work life balance and instead focus on designing the life you really want based on your values.

  • Hi Ali! I so agree that it is important to life our lives by design rather than “accident.” I also agree that it is so very important for us to be honest with ourselves and ask those really important questions to get the truth behind what matters most to us. Thanks for these important reminders. ~Kathy

  • You are spot on Kathy – honesty with ourselves is crucial.