When I posted the previous post Why Work Life Balance is NOT for the Self Employed it prompted a number of discussions with some of my twitter followers on the whole work life balance concept. One of the questions that I got asked was:
Why is Work Life Balance so hard to achieve?
In order to answer that question, let’s start with the end game in mind? Ask yourself this:
Imagine you have achieved your ideal work life balance. What does it look like? What would it give you that you don’t have right now?
I am talking about what you specifically want to have happen. Imagine anything is possible. Imagine there are no limitations. Imagine the ideal is there for the taking. Be specific. Dare to dream.
Think of the things you listed down in answer to that question. Those are the things you should be focussing on. Those are the things that should be driving your goals and actions plans.
Focussing on those specific outcomes is much more likely to deliver the results you want than chasing balance
Chasing balance is like taking the wrong motorway. No matter how fast you drive, it will never get you to where you really want to be.
And that is why work life balance seems so hard to achieve – because what we want the end result to be is different to what focussing on balance delivers.
I would argue that it isn’t balance that we want at all. It is a life built on our core values. It is protecting our family life, relationships, quality of life and what is most important to us.
Remember this – you get what you focus on. Focus on what you really want. Not some outdated and flawed concept.
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