On Saturday 1st March 2014 at 9.0am my husband and I took some time to go and sit quietly together to pay our respects to Judy Martin who had passed away suddenly, aged only 49, a month earlier.

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Thoughts on life following the sudden death of a friend

Thoughts following the death of a friendOn Saturday 1st March 2014 at 9.0am my husband and I took some time to go and sit quietly together to pay our respects to Judy Martin (News 12 Anchor, Emmy award-winning jounalist and Work Life Balance Consultant) who had passed away suddenly, aged only 49, a month earlier.

We had chosen that day and time as it was at exactly that time that a memorial service was being held in New York.

We weren’t able to get to New York for the memorial so we decided to pay our respects by creating quiet time to reflect on our memories of Judy, celebrate her life and be grateful she touched our lives.

I had known Judy for a few years. We shared the same passion around the subject of the impact that work has on life.

As we sat there, I reflected on the conversations we shared, the laughs we had and the work we did together. Precious memories I will always hold dear.

As my husband and I chatted, a thought came back to me that had hit me like a tonne of bricks three years previously when my husband had been involved in a serious car crash (You can read the full story about that in Lessons from a wake up call). 

It was this:

It is easy to take your plans for life for granted and think you have plenty of time to make them happen. But the reality is that you don’t know when something will suddenly happen that will rob you of the opportunity to have the life you want with the people you want.

This is true for every single one of us. Yet often the way we live our lives doesn’t reflect this reality. More often than not we live as if the years ahead are a sure thing.

This has me wondering about many things. Things like:

  • I wonder how people’s lives would be different if they stopped thinking they have years ahead of them.
  • I wonder what different choices they would make.
  • I wonder how they might treat the people that are most important to them differently if they knew they would lose them tomorrow.
  • I wonder what they would make more time for instead of settling for living in a permanent state of being over busy.

As these thoughts ran through my head, it raised some important questions we could all benefit from asking ourselves:

  • What memories do you want to create with the most important people in your life?
  • What difference do you want to make in their lives?
  • What legacy do you want to leave behind through your life, work and relationships?
  • What do you want to do, experience or change but have been putting off because you are so busy?

None of us know what is around the corner.

So we must live, love and make a difference – now, in the present. Because there is no guarantee that we can do it any other time.

Start living the life you want – now. Start creating more great memories with the people you love – now. Start making a positive difference to the people around you – now. Start doing work that matters and you love – now. Live the legacy you want to leave in your life, work and relationships – now.

Now is all we really have. Live, love and work accordingly.

This post is dedicated to Judy Martin, in honour of the positive impact she had on so many people through her life and work.She made a difference.

Judy Martin

Judy Martin 1965 – 2014

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