A few months ago, our family moved to live in a town on the coast. The beach and ocean are just a short walk from our new house. Living at the beach has been a long held dream for our family.
For me, it started when I was a little girl growing up in Liverpool, England. Every summer we would head off camping to a small village in North Wales called Aberdaron. It is on the tip of a peninsula and surrounded by numerous beautiful, unspoilt beaches.
Even as a kid, I much preferred being at the coast and surrounded by countryside than being in the city. As I grew up it became a dream to live on the coast permanently.
Fast forward a few years to adulthood – my husband and son share the same dream!
So, 12 years ago we started to investigate options and really wanted to give Canada a go but at that time there were obstacles that meant it wasn’t possible. Rather than give up on our dream we decided to try something else.
We left England to live in Clonakilty, on the south coast of Ireland. Oh boy, were we glad we did. The coast and countryside there are stunning. Living on the coast was everything I dreamed it would be, and more.
After 7 years in Ireland, the obstacles that had been in the way of getting to Canada had gone, so we had an opportunity to finally realise our dream. Leaving Ireland was tough because I love it so much, and always will. But our long held dream of living on the Canadian coast was finally within reach. We felt we really wanted to give it a go.
We lived in Vancouver to start with to be near my husband’s job and while we got established in our new country. Being back in a city didn’t feel right for any of us, even though it is right on the coast.
So started plans to finally achieve our dream of living by the beach in a small town in Canada. It has taken way longer than we would have liked to make this happen. But at last we have done it. Achieving this dream has taken years and years. There have been many setbacks, obstacles and blood, sweat and tears to get to this point. But letting go of the dream was never an option.
But many people do give up on their dreams because they perceive it will take too long, or because they can’t see how they could make it happen, or because it is so damn hard to do. People often want to know how long it will take to achieve their dream before they start. But that is not always possible.
Sadly, we live in a world that wants “now, fast and easy,” which goes against what it really takes to achieve most dreams and big goals. It takes time, patience, commitment, hard work and willingness to fight for your dreams, no matter how long it takes.
So here is exactly how long it takes to achieve your dreams and goals if you are serious about them:
As long as it takes.
That really is the truth of the matter. Achieving dreams and goals takes as long as they take. Obviously there are things you can do to influence how long it takes. But the bottom line is that achieving your dreams and important goals can’t always have an exact time frame on them.
And that is why it is good to adopt the mindset of “my dream will take as long as it takes.” Then work your arse off to make it happen. Plan. Take action. Commit to find a way.
Yes, it is good to set time frames to work toward. I am all for that. But if that time frame doesn’t work out, that isn’t a reason to give up if it is your life’s dream or an important goal to you.
Don’t allow fixed, preconceived ideas about how long a dream should take to achieve to drive whether you go for it or not. Don’t be put off that it might take a long time. Don’t let things going wrong along the way make you throw in the towel.
If it is a dream that is worth fighting for to you, then it will take as long as it takes.