Feeling stuck in some area of your life or work sucks.
It can make you feel out of control of your life, frustrated, unfulfilled, unhappy and that the life and results you really want are passing you by, or out of reach.
But I would encourage you to consider the possibility that feeling stuck isn’t necessarily the problem. Let me explain:
Feeling stuck is something that happens to pretty much all of us at some stage in our life, for one reason or another.
Maybe the choices you made in your life and work when you were younger no longer serve you. Maybe you have just reached a stage of life where you want something different for yourself but the status quo feels difficult to change. Maybe something happened that has thrown you into a situation you didn’t want, like a business problem, a relationship breakdown, work negatively impacting your personal life, or work no longer feeling fulfilling.
Regardless of the cause of feeling stuck, the reason I say feeling stuck isn’t the problem is because it can be a useful message telling you something needs to change. Listening to that message and then taking action on it can be a powerful springboard to the life, work and results you really want.
Feeling stuck isn’t the problem. Setting up camp there, doing nothing about it and staying there is the real problem.
Choosing to engage in an ongoing pity party, blame, excuses and taking no action is just going to keep you feeling stuck ongoing.
The solution to feeling stuck starts with shifting from being problem focussed and instead become solution focussed.
Stop dwelling on feeling stuck. And if you are telling yourself you don’t know how to solve it, stop that right now. You need to stop telling yourself that, as it will keep you stuck even longer. Start telling yourself that you will figure it out. Commit to finding a way.
To help you get started with this, here are 8 things to do when you feel stuck in your life or work:
1. Take some time to think about what is creating your feelings of being stuck. Write them down. Then, next to each thing you have listed write what the outcome you would most like to happen. Be as specific as possible.
2. Brainstorm all the things you can think of that would move you toward that outcome becoming a reality. Put that list into priority order and create a step by step action plan that will move you toward that outcome.
3. Work the plan, consistently and persistently. Breaking it down into really small steps is a powerful way to build momentum and feel like you are making progress.
4. Celebrate every step or progress, no matter how small. That will keep motivation going and remind you that you are now moving forward. Keep this in mind:
“Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out.” – Robert Collier
5. If you need help to work out a way forward or how to do something become a committed learner of that topic. Read books, attend workshops, talk to people who have achieved the outcome you desire, research, hire a coach or expert in what you want to achieve. Don’t allow “I don’t know how” to stop you. Choose to find a way.
6. Keep looking forward to the outcome you are working on creating. Don’t allow yourself to dwell on the past. You can’t change that. All you can do is learn the lesson, apply the learning and move on.
7. Surround yourself with supportive, constructive people that cheer you on.
8. Have an accountability buddy that helps you stay on track with taking action and being solution focussed. It could be a trusted friend or a work colleague. Or start your own little support group of folks who also want to create change in their life or work too.