He has played an important role throughout my life.
He drummed into me that life isn’t a dress rehearsal – that it is good to challenge the status quo and not to settle for mediocrity.
His influence and support over the years have helped me create positive changes in my life. He has been a role model for living life large and on your own terms.
I don’t know when, or if, I will see him again as me, my husband and son are in the final stages of preparing to move to Vancouver, Canada to live.
Spending time with this particular family member, and seeing the positive and inspiring way he is dealing with this curveball that life has thrown at him, is a reminder of the importance of grabbing life by the scruff of the neck, designing how you want it to be and taking action to make it so.
Designing life isn’t a new thing for me and my husband. It started as dawn broke on 1st January 2000.
We were sat on top of our favourite mountain watching the sun rising on a new millennium. In that moment, we made a pact to design the life we really wanted.
Our pact stemmed from a growing dissatisfaction with many areas of our life.
So we set out to design life on our own terms, based on what we value most and our own definition of success. Over the last twelve years, living and working by design has become a way of life, reaping benefits by the bucket load.
Here are 4 reasons to start designing your life as a matter of urgency:
1. You don’t know when life will suddenly throw you a curveball that will rob you of the opportunity to have the life you want with the people you want. (I wrote about this in more detail in Lessons from a Wake Up Call after my husband had a serious car crash in April 2011).
2. The pain of settling for what you don’t want is far more than the pain of creating change. Because the pain of staying stuck is endless. The pain of the change process is temporary.
3. A designed life is a fulfilling life – on so many different levels. A life lived by accident or by someone else’s definition of success is just gambling that it will all turn out OK. And that is a hell of a gamble to take with your one and only life.
4. Life is too short to settle for mediocrity (The philosophy me and my husband live and work by)
Don’t leave life to chance. Design it. Then find ways to turn it into reality because:
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than the ones you did. So, throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain