Sometimes your life feels amazing. Sometimes it sucks. Life is like the sea with tides that ebb and flow. But, there are loads of things we can do to shift the odds to favour the good stuff over bad stuff.

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Sometimes your life feels amazing.
Sometimes it feels like it sucks.

Sometimes you feel you can achieve anything.
Sometimes the voices of self doubt are deafening.

Sometimes your work life is marching forward.
Sometimes you feel like it is going backward.

Sometimes your relationships are brilliant.
Sometimes they run into difficulty.

Sometimes you feel you could take on the world.
Sometimes you just want to crawl back to bed and pull the covers over your head.

Life is like the sea with tides that ebb and flow.

But, there are lots of things we can do to shift the odds to favour the good stuff over bad stuff.

But expecting things to ALWAYS be good is setting ourselves up for some serious disappointment.

Keep this in mind:

Sometimes ALWAYS passes.

So, we must grab the good “sometimes” and make the most of them. We must look for ways to change ourselves, our lives, our work and our relationships to shift the odds in their favour.

And we must respond appropriately to the not so good “sometimes” when they arise. Learn from them. Put things in place to reduce the chances of them raising their ugly heads again. Then move on.

Hanging on to stuff that has passed and you can’t change serves no useful purpose.

You can’t always choose what happens to you, but you can always choose how you respond.

“Sometimes” is part of the way life is.

What do you need to change in your life and work to deal with the ebb and flow of your “sometimes?”

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  • Great piece, Ali. Nothing – good or bad – last forever, so we just have to hang in there and make the most of the hapinness that may come our way.

  • Indeed. We should also look for the ways we can influence those things too and not just leave it to chance.

  • I loved this Ali – and today it felt exactly what I needed to hear!

  • Karen, delighted you enjoyed it and you found it useful.

  • Thanks Ali.  Your post really hit the spot for me today.  Sometimes we beat ourselves up too much for not achieving enough or for not being the perfect wife and mother, sometimes we just need to go with the flow knowing that tomorrow is another day.

  • Yes, chasing perfection is such a waste of time. I like to work on the basis that good enough is the new perfect.

  • Janet Callaway

    Ali, aloha. You are so right. Sometimes is ever moving–and we must be willing to let it keep moving rather than spend so much time focusing on it that we miss the present.

    Actually, Ali, if people would ask themselves “what difference will this make in a week or month or year” they would be able to put sometimes into perspective. When we project out, we realize the sometimes that is happening now will not continue on as is.

    Thanks so much for your adept handling of this oh-so-important topic. Until next time, aloha. Janet

  •  Hi Janet, thanks for dropping by. Love that question – a real perspective giver.

  • heidinord

    This is so true for me, and I suspect it’s a natural, human response. It’s so helpful to know other people experience “sometimes”. Thanks so much.

  • Hi Heidi, I think everyone experiences it – It is part of life. Accepting that helps with navigating the ebbs and flows

  • Cathy Chester

    Thanks for sending this to me, Ali. But there’s a lot of serious illness in my personal life (not mine, but loved ones) and that is what keeps gnawing at me and rattling my soul.

    I am in the midst of writing a post all about perspective and staying positive. You are a doll to let me know about this post. You are brilliant. xo

  • Cathy, I am so sorry to hear about the serious illness with loved ones. I can relate to that totally as I have been walking that path recently myself with people I love too. It is so hard. I am delighted this post helped in some small way. My very best wishes to you. Take good care x

  • You’ve reminded me of something I used to say to myself when I was in the ebb rather than in the flow:

    Have you ever felt this way before?
    And did it pass?
    You’ve got this…


  • Love that Karen. Good to remind ourselves that we have survived everything that life has thrown at us.

  • Life certainly does ebb and flow, and keeping a balanced attitude throughout it all is worth it in the end. Thank you for your thoughtful words.

  • 1010 Park Place

    Not always, but for the most part, tomorrow starts and ends with us. We can’t do anything about 10 minutes ago, but we have the power to shape our tomorrows. Brenda

  • Glad you enjoyed it Laurel.

  • Well said Brenda.