Feeling overwhelmed and being over-busy can create all sorts of damage to your life, work and relationships. Here's what you can do about it.

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In the battle to eliminate feeling overwhelmed and over-busy, start with this

Circus girlFeeling overwhelmed and being over-busy can create all sorts of damage to your life, work and relationships.  

For example:

– it leaves you feeling stuck, peddling a hamster wheel going nowhere

– your health suffers

– it robs you of having enough time and energy to create a change you would like to make happen

– it gets in the way of progressing your most important goals and getting the results you really want

– your relationships suffer

– it kills your personal effectiveness

– it leaves you feeling unfulfilled and negatively impacts your quality of life

The list could go on and on of the damage being done by remaining in a state of feeling overwhelmed and being over-busy.

But it doesn’t have to be this way.

So what can you do about it?

In the battle to eliminate feeling overwhelmed and being over-busy, start here:

Step 1 – Stop settling for it. Stop tolerating what is robbing you of the life and results you really want.

What you tolerate persists. Stop tolerating.

Feeling overwhelmed and over-busy isn’t compulsory. You have a choice here.

Make a decision right now that you will no longer settle for, or tolerate, feeling overwhelmed and being-over busy as your default setting. Even if you don’t know how you will do it, don’t worry, just making the decision to stop settling and tolerating it is the first step.

Just because it is currently that way, and might have even been that way for a long time, doesn’t mean it has to stay that way. Choose change.

Step 2 – Create awareness. Awareness is the first step in creating change.

When you have awareness of what is really driving the situation it opens up a much deeper clarity that opens the door for change to happen. To create more awareness and clarity for yourself, look at all areas of your life. For example: home life, work, money, health, relationships etc.

For each one identify how it might specifically be contributing to feeling overwhelmed and/or over-busy. Get clear about what you are tolerating or have settled for in your life and work that is contributing to the situation.

Step 3 – Commit to finding a way to change the situation.

Once you have your list from step 2, start looking for the first small steps you could take that would lead to the outcome you most want to achieve for that particular thing. If you don’t know what those steps are, look for what you might need to learn, get help from someone who does know about those things, do some research etc.

Step 4 – Take action

Sounds blindingly obvious doesn’t it? But so many people get stuck in a cycle of  spending all their time thinking about things and endless planning, but unless you are willing to take action to confront these things head on, nothing will change.

In the battle against feeling overwhelmed and being over-busy, you are the commander. Create your battle plans and march into action. The battle won’t end otherwise.

And let’s be clear, the battle we are talking about here is the battle for the life and results you really want. Act accordingly.

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  • I love this post. Straight to the point. Clear. It can take time and courage to admit that something (or someone) shouldn’t be part of our life. But the result usually is very liberating.

  • Ali Davies

    Julie, glad you enjoyed the post. I agree with you that it can take time and courage. It can feel very hard too. But it is so worth and and as you point out, liberating.

  • Can I get an “Amen” in the house. Such great observations / insights and advice on the problem of being overbusy. It’s usually “approval / praise” that’s driving me when I get overbusy. Thanks for the invitation to take an inventory and correct.

  • Ali Davies

    Hi Karen, glad you got some value from the article. Have fun taking you inventory and actioning it. It can be a very powerful exercise.

  • This is a great plan of action, or way to get to that action. I wish I would have seen this earlier in my life. Thanks

    Anita

  • Ali Davies

    Hi Anita, have fun playing with it. It is a great way of increasing awareness and a good start point for creating change.

  • Ali, I agree that awareness is so critical. During my life after 50, I’m trying to slow down and become more aware of my actions and my frustrations. Mindfulness has helped me stay more in the present and not get as overwhelmed as I used to when I was working full-time.

  • Ali Davies

    Judy, I think you refer to something really important in your comment……slowing down. I think the pace of life society moves at isn’t the pace of life we are suited too. I think slowing down is actually about slowing down to the real pace of life. I think spending time in nature and the outdoors really helps that as it anchors us in the pace the world really moves at rather than the pace society has artificially created. I totally agree with you about mindfulness – such a powerful habit that reaps so many benefits on so many different levels.

  • I was just thinking this morning, how over busy I’ve made my life!! I commited to change how I structure my time and priorities! VERY timely piece. Thanks Ali

  • Good for you Jennifer – committing to change is the first step. Onwards and upwards!

  • “What you tolerate persists” has become my mantra. Thanks

  • So glad you found it helpful Anita.