The starting point is to make a commitment to yourself to stop tolerating the things that are making you feel overwhelmed.
The reason this is important, is because what you tolerate persists. Often we keep on tolerating the same old things week in week out, month in month out, year in year out. This creates feelings of overwhelm.
What do I mean by tolerations?
Well, it is all those things that need actioning but you never quite get round to. Things that have been bugging you for some time. Things that keep playing on your mind over and over.
It could be things like:
- weeks of admin that haven’t been done
- a backlog of house chores
- business struggling
- financial situation
- unhealthy relationships
All the things you tolerate contribute to feeling overwhelm – until you deal with them. They are not going to go away on their own. You have to take personal responsibility for getting them nailed.
But tolerating things doesn’t just make you feel overwhelmed. They are a huge energy drain. They suck the life out of you. They hold you back. They keep you stuck.
And not to mention the negative impact they have on things like quality of life, self esteem and motivation.
Here is a four step action plan to help you nail the things you tolerate and reduce your feelings of overwhelm:
Step 1 – Get really clear on what you are tolerating
Get a piece of paper. Split it into headings like business, home, relationships, finance and health. You might have headings of your own, specific to your life and circumstances. For each heading, write down as many things that you can think of that you are tolerating and/or causes you to feel overwhelmed.
Step 2 – Create a toleration and overwhelm busting action plan
Create an action plan to start getting these things nailed. Some items on your list will be things you can nail quite quickly and others might be bigger things that will take much longer. For the bigger items on your list, break them down into small, manageable chunks. Then start taking the first steps.
Step 3 – Create a system to stop the tolerations you nail raising their ugly heads again
Once you have nailed an item on your list, put a system in place to stop it becoming a problem in the future. For each item, ask yourself “what do I need to put in place to stop this happening again?” Remember, prevention is always better than cure.
Step 4 – Rinse and repeat
Doing this exercise once is not going to solve the problem permanently. Make this exercise part of your regular routine to help keep the overwhelm demons at bay.
Don’t underestimate how much the things you tolerate are contributing to your feeling overwhelmed.