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How to feel more fulfilled in your life and work

How to create more fulfillment in your life and work

If the status quo in your life or work leaves you feeling unfulfilled, then it is time for change!

An important thing to keep in mind is this:

Just because you currently feel unfulfilled doesn’t mean it has to stay that way.

Yes, things can happen in life that results in feeling unfulfilled. Maybe it is a choice you made. Maybe it is circumstances, or a situation that happened.

But whatever the source of feeling unfulfilled, keep in mind that settling for feeling unfulfilled is optional!

Feeling unfilled isn’t the problem. Doing nothing about it is the problem.

The path to feeling more fulfilled lies in choosing change and committing to taking action. Not doing so is choosing to settle for whatever it is you feel unfulfilled about.

The key to get on the path to change from feeling unfulfilled to fulfilled is twofold:

1. Create awareness of key factors that contribute to a fulfilling life and work.

2. Apply those factors to your own life and work.

Let’s take a look at both of those things and how you can apply them to you and your circumstances.

Create awareness of the main factors that contribute to a fulfilling life and work.

People who report feeling fulfilled in their life and work have a number of things in common. they include:

  • They have clarity on what their core values are and build every area of their life and work around those.

Often when you feel unfulfilled, it is a message that one of your values is being trampled all over. Listening to that message can help you identify which values are not being honoured so that you can work out a solution. Compromising on your values is always a mistake, and is the road to feeling unfulfilled.

  • They have formed their own unique definition of success and measure all areas of their life and work against that, not a definition of success pushed on them by family, friends, colleagues, society etc.

Being clear on whether you are living and working by your own definition of success, or someone else’s, can help you make better choices that will lead to fulfillment.

  • They have strong boundaries to protect what is most important to them.
  • They don’t settle for the status quo if it isn’t working. They choose change and commit to action.

Implement factors that create fulfillment in your own life and work.

Here are some steps to help you apply those factors to your own life and work:

Step 1 – get clear on what your core values are. The values that if you build all areas of your life and work around would make you feel fulfilled. Something that might help you get clarity on your values is to think about what is making you feel unfulfilled right now. Really seek to understand why that is. Look deep at what value is not being honoured and as a result making you feel unfulfilled.

Step 2 – create your own unique definition of success, based on your core values, for all areas of your life and work.

Step 3 – identify changes you need to make and action you need to take to build all areas of your life and work around your values and your own definition of success.

Step 4 – form an action plan and implement it!

Step 5 – identify boundaries you need to put in place to protect what is most important to you.

The bottom line is this:

This is your one and only life. Making it a fulfilling one is up to you.

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  • Thank you for this. Very important information. And in template form! I’m applying it as I study successful women whom I wish to emulate.

  • So glad you found it useful.

  • It’s amazing what can happen when you ask someone about their core values. I find especially in couples work — people almost get embarrassed when they realize how far afield they are with their actions and their words. Really great to remember. Thanks Ali!

  • Hi Margaret, I agree. It really raises awareness and, as a result, the possibility of positive change becomes an option.

  • Sounds like a plan Ali. I hope more people will put in in place. Shame is everywhere in our culture.

  • Martin Haworth

    Thank for the reminder Ali. Values .doc printed and on wall. Action plan on way!

  • Hi Martin, good for you for diving into action on this. Have fun with it.

  • Cathy Chester

    I definitely needed to read this. There is so much I need to do. You have helped me today, Ali.

  • Cathy, beyond delighted that this has helped you today. You say there is so much you need to do. You might find it helpful to break it all down into small steps. Then just take the next step, then the next and then the next. Makes it feel more doable and less overwhelming.

  • These are great points! I think some people need validation more than others to feel fulfilled. Success examined is a very personal matter. Is it financial, recognition, validation, spiritual etc?

  • Michelle

    I so much needed to read this. Thank you!

  • Yes, when we make success a very personal thing .i.e. based on our values and our own definition of success, it can transform all areas of our lives.

  • Michelle, so pleased you found it useful. Have fun experimenting with all the steps.

  • Roxanne Jones

    Ali, I love your consistent, empowering message about how the ability to change and grow is within all of us–and how you provide practical guidance for how to do so!

  • Roxanne, thanks so much for your kind words. I really appreciate it. I am a firm believer in the ability for us all to create change to bring more fulfillment and meaning into all areas of our life, work and relationships.

  • We are all so busy, sometimes we forget to check in with ourselves! This is a great post! It is a reminder to re-evaluate your life goals and make some changes when needed.

  • Ellen, it is really good to check in with ourselves at regular intervals throughout the year as a way to get on track and stay on track.