In the previous post 10 Reasons To Have An Accountability Partner If You Are Self Employed we explored just a few of the many benefits of having an accountability partner for self employed professionals.
But how do you go about finding one?
And when you have found one, how do you know that person is the RIGHT accountability partner for you? (yes, not just anybody will do!!)
Warning before you start:
Whatever you do, don’t go bowling up to just anyone at an event or in your network and ask them to be your accountability partner.
If you do that, you are just going to look needy and a tad strange! And you are risking ending up with the wrong person, which means neither of you will get the results you want.
So, start by getting clear on EXACTLY what you are looking for in an accountability partner BEFORE you even start looking.
Think core values here.
You are looking to find someone who shares similar values.
This is REALLY important. Shared values, is the foundation of a good quality accountability partnership.
So have a think of people you already know that you have a good relationship with. Ask yourself:
- Does this person share similar values to me?
- Do they meet the criteria I am looking for in an accountability partner?
- Do I feel a good, positive connection with that person?
- Do I think that person might be interested in the idea?
When you have answered these questions fully, approach the person you are considering.
Don’t just hit them with “Do you want to be my accountability partner?” That is a big turn off and smacks of “me, me, me.”
Present the idea and ask if it is something they are interested in exploring further. Have a discussion about the potential benefits and results for both of you. Brainstorm format ideas that might be appropriate.
The key here is to make it a discussion. Not a “will you won’t you” ultimatum. Engage in conversation.
If they say yes, great. Game on. Work out a format that works for both of you and off you go.
If they say it isn’t for them, just thank them for considering it and move on. Go back to your contact list and follow the same process again.
But what if you can’t think of anyone in your current network that you feel would be an appropriate accountability partner?
Then, start looking at building new relationships with people who share the same values as you. Don’t focus on building the relationship with the intention of “getting” them as an accountability partner. Not nice.
Just have the intention of building new quality relationships with people and let things naturally evolve from there.
Remember, a good accountability partnership comes from having a good quality relationship based on shared core values FIRST.
What do you think? Do you agree with this approach to finding the right accountability partner or do you have other suggestions? Please share your views in the comments below.