In the previous post 10 Reasons To Have An Accountability Partner we explored just a few of the many benefits of having an accountability partner. But how do you go about finding one? And when you have found one, how do you know that person is the RIGHT accountability partner for you? (yes, not just anybody will do!!)

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How to find an Accountability Partner

How to find an Accountability Buddy when you are Self Employed

Having an accountability partner can be a great way to set yourself up to succeed in achieving the goals and results that matter most to you.

It can help you with a whole host of things like successfully dealing with challenges and setbacks; working out plans and next steps; creating change that lasts, implementing action plans, stay focused, improving personal effectiveness and so on.

But how do you go about finding an accountability partner and know they are the right fit for you?

To help you get started with that, here are four steps to find the right person and create a win-win partnership:

Step 1 – Get clear on exactly what you are looking for in an accountability partner before you even start looking.

Think about your core values and get clear on the values you would like your accountability partner to have that would be a good fit for you. Think about how you like to work, what structure and format would be ideal etc. Having a clear picture of what you are looking for in an accountability partner will help you in finding someone who is the right fit for you.

Step 2 – Think about the people you already know in your network and community.

Ask yourself:

  • Does this person share similar values to me?
  • Do they meet what I am looking for in an accountability partner?
  • Is this likely to be a win-win relationship for both parties?
  • Do I feel a good, positive connection with that person?
  • How would they benefit from the partnership?

Step 3 – Explore the idea with potential partners 

Present the idea to the person you feel is a good fit and ask them if it is something they are interested in exploring further. If they are, have a discussion about the potential benefits and results for both of you. Brainstorm format ideas, how it would work, frequency, structure, framework, duration etc.

The key here is to be looking for a win-win. This has to be mutually beneficial and work for both parties for it to be successful.

If they say yes, great. Game on. If they say it isn’t for them, just thank them for considering it and move on. Go back to your contact list and follow the same process again.

Step 4 – Build values-based relationships  

But what if you can’t think of anyone in your current network that you feel would be an appropriate accountability partner?

Start looking at building new relationships with people who share the same values as you. Don’t focus on building the relationship with the intention of “getting” them as an accountability partner. Just have the intention of building new quality relationships with people and let things naturally evolve from there.

It can take time and effort to find the right accountability partner, but the many benefits make it worthwhile.

Read 10 Reasons To Have An Accountability Partner to see the many, and often overlooked, benefits of having an accountability partner to support you as you work on achieving the goals and results that matter most to you.

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  • WorkingNaked

    I like the idea of having an accountability partner. I’m going to contact a few people I know and work out a system with them. Each of us can set our goals and make sure the other meets them. This is excellent advice for moving a small business forward.

  • Ali Davies

    Hi Lisa,
    Welcome to my blog. Having an accountability buddy really is a powerful way of keeping momentum going. Have fun playing with it. Would love to hear how you get on. Thanks for dropping by.

  • Hi Lisa,

    Welcome to my blog. Having an accountability buddy really is a powerful
    way of keeping momentum going. Have fun playing with it. Would love to
    hear how you get on. Thanks for dropping by.

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  • It always helps to surround yourself with supportive people and an Accountability Partner is a great idea!

  • Totally agree. Who you surround yourself make a big difference to many things on many different levels.

  • This is a great idea, particularly for the Type A, first borns, independents who think they can do it all on their own

  • I am a great believer that none of us is successful alone. Who we surround ourselves with and the support we have makes a big difference.

  • Martin Haworth

    Hey Ali, this fits perfectly in my thinking right at the moment. Thank you so much for sharing this with us and I’ll be looking into an accountability partner very soon! Martin

  • Martin, I am delighted you found it so useful.