I don’t mind sharing with you that I have experienced some real whoppers.
And boy have I learnt some important lessons from them. One of the most powerful lessons I have learnt is this:
We can’t always choose what happens to us, but we can always choose how we respond
So, with that in mind, here are three easy steps that work a treat when dealing with setbacks:
Step 1 – Learn the Lesson
When a setback happens look for the lesson.
There is ALWAYS a lesson.
Focus on the lesson instead of dwelling on the problem. Don’t fall into the trap of victim mentality. That serves no purpose at all. It will rob you of taking 100% responsibility of what has gone wrong.
Yes, I am suggesting you take 100% responsibility for the setback. Because it is only when we take 100% responsibility for everything going on in our work life and personal life that we can create effective change.
Step 2 – Apply the learning
So, you have learnt what the lesson is. Next you have to apply the learning.
Look at the lesson you have learnt and ask yourself:
What do I need to do to stop this sort of setback happening again?
Unless you apply the learning you are pretty much inviting that particular setback to happen again.
This means taking action to reduce the risk of that particular setback rearing its ugly head again.
Step 3 – Move on
Once you have learnt the lesson the setback has taught you and you have taken action to apply what you learnt then it is time to let it go and move on.
Dwelling on it, beating yourself up about it, blaming and assigning fault serves no useful purpose. It is a waste of time and energy. It doesn’t achieve anything and it certainly doesn’t move anything forward.
Holding on to a setback keeps you stuck. Let it go. Move on.
The next time you hit a setback in your life or work, keep in mind these three steps:
Learn the lesson. Apply the learning. Move on.