A common habit that can have a big impact on keeping you stuck is talking to yourself in statements. Here’s why that is a problem:
Statements change nothing!
For example, statements you might be saying to yourself might be things like:
- I’m working more than I want to
- I don’t have the life I really want
- I feel at a crossroads in my life and want to change but don’t know how
- I feel overwhelmed
- I don’t have enough time or energy
The statements you tell yourself may well be ture. But talking in statements is a habit that doesn’t lead to actions and change. And without a next step or taking action nothing changes. You continue to stay stuck in the situation or circumstance that you don’t want.
The good news is that this habit can be changed into a much healthy habit that serves you better and helps you to work out a way forward. Here’s how:
Start fostering the habit of turning your statements into questions.
Questions are a powerful weapon in the battle to get unstuck. They help you explore ideas and options that can lead you in the right direction and to identify the next step to start getting unstuck.
For example, the statements listed above could become questions like these:
- What needs to change so that I can work less?
- What do I need to learn to create the life I really want?
- What could I do to get clarity on what direction to take in my life and how to do that?
- What do I need to do to feel less overwhelmed?
- What would it take for me to feel like I have more than enough time and energy?
See the difference?
Questions are infinitely more powerful than statements. Questions lead to a different mindset about a situation. A different mindset leads to different behaviour and actions. And different behaviour and actions leads to different results.
The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing – Albert Einstein
So if you want to create real change and different results in your life and work at midlife and beyond, stop making statements about situations. Get into the habit of asking yourself questions instead.