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A creative way to deal with feeling at a crossroads in your life or work.

Feeling at a crossroads in life and work?Feeling at a crossroads in your life and work can be an uncomfortable place to be.

It can bring up all sorts of feelings like uncertainty, fear, regret and feeling stuck.

Feeling at a crossroads can happen for many reasons.

Maybe you have realised that decisions and choices you made in the past no longer serve you.

Maybe you have got to a stage of life where you are questioning the status quo and what you want your life and work to be like.

Maybe you want more fulfillment, meaning and purpose.

Maybe your personal or professional circumstances have changed for some reason and you are trying to work out your options and next steps.

Maybe you just feel ready for a change.

What is often missing when you feel at a crossroads is clarity.

So, creating clarity is a top priority.

Clarity will help you to work out what path to take to move forward. It will help you make meaningful plans, take next steps, and address challenges that are getting in your way.

Having clarity makes you feel more in control. It increases feelings of motivation and possibility as you move forward which helps with combating feelings like uncertainty and fear.

When feeling at a crossroads, clarity is your best friend!

How can you get on the path to clarity so you can stop feeling at a crossroads, and instead start moving toward the life and work you most want to create?

Here is an approach to experiment with:

Imagine your life is like a book made up of many chapters. You get to be the author of every chapter and the way the story ends.

Even if the current chapter of your life or work has been a disaster, you can decide how this chapter ends and write the next chapter how you want it to be.

Doing this helps you shift your mindset from uncertainty and fear toward clarity and possibility. And that will support you with getting unstuck and moving forward.

Here are suggestions on how to approach this to get you started:

Step 1 – identify what is going on in the current chapter of your life or work that is making you feel at a crossroads or stuck.

Step 2 – write the ending of the current chapter based on a decision and commitment to create change.

For example, say you feel unfulfilled or feel like life isn’t how you want it to be, the ending to your current chapter might go something like this:

“Despite feeling unfulfilled and that my life isn’t how I really want it to be right now, I am deciding I will no longer settle for what isn’t working. I will find a way to create a better, more fulfilling reality.”

The important thing to get when writing the end to the current chapter of your life is that you don’t have to know exactly how you will create change or what the next steps are. Just wrap that chapter up with a decision to change and a commitment to finding a solution.

As you look at your current chapter of life, how will you choose to end it?

All change starts with a decision. What is yours about the situation you are in?

Step 3 – Write the next chapter of your life and work as you ideally want it to be, based on your values and what is most important to you. What do you want to have happen in the next chapter of your life and work? What are your next steps?

Writing out the next chapter of your life will help you develop clarity. It will help you to identify the steps that will start to move you from feeling at a crossroads toward the life and work you most want to create.

Start thinking of all areas of your life as a book with many chapters. You get to write it. You get to decide how the current chapter ends. You get to write the next chapter. You get to create what happens next.

So, over to you. If you are feeling at a crossroads for some reason, experiment with these three steps. Think of your life as a book with many chapters. Become the author of your life. Start writing and creating the next chapter.

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  • This really resonated with me Ali. I’ve just made a decision that was a big one and I wish I had these tips, but I’m going to starting trying this with other things. Thank you

  • Marie Mack

    I think this is such a great approach! A lot of times it seems like we struggle with finding the “clarity” you talked about, and I think that just considering our values and how we want our future to look based on those is the best way to find the path we need to go down.

  • Rena, glad you found it useful. Have fun experimenting with it.

  • Marie, you are so right – focussing on creating clarity really helps.

  • Mary Mosiman

    This works I’ve used this quote for 20 years to help me move though troubled times.

    “Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.”

    Carl Bard

  • Liz

    I like the chapter approach. Thanks.

  • Renee L Stambaugh

    This is great and I am trying to do this. It isn’t as easy at 66 as it was at 36.

  • I like this Ali. Breaking down goals, or 5 year plans to chapters in our own book of me seems much more doable!

  • Love that quote Mary.

  • Thanks Liz. Glad you liked it. I have always found the chapter approach works really well.

  • Renee, have fun experimenting with it. It isn’t always easy, but it is always worthwhile!

  • Haralee, I think when we break things down into smaller steps it makes the path forward much easier and less overwhelming.

  • Little steps, big results!

  • Absolutely!