Do you need to embrace the “F” word more? It is a word that everyone uses at sometime. Anyone that says that they don’t is lying. It is word that stops people in their tracks. The “F” word in question that I am referring to is this: FEAR The other day I put out this on twitter - Sometimes you have to do stuff that frightens the pants off you to move towards your vision

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Why You Should Embrace The “F” Word More

Why you should start embracing the "f" word moreDo you need to embrace the “F” word more?

It is a word that everyone uses at sometime. Anyone that says that they don’t is lying. It is word that stops people in their tracks.

The “F” word in question that I am referring to is this:

FEAR

The other day I put out this on twitter:

Sometimes you have to do stuff that frightens the pants off you to move towards your vision #justsayin’

It generated discussion with fellow tweeters who were experiencing fear for whatever reason in their work life, business or personal life.

The truth about this tweet is that it was a reminder for myself as well as a message to my twitter followers.

You see, for years I let fear cripple me and keep me stuck in a life of mediocrity. It was only 10 years ago when I decided to jack in 14 years of peddling the corporate hamster wheel to work and live on my own terms that I discovered the joys and rewards of frightening the pants off yourself.

Recently, I find myself needing to embrace fear again. I am in the process of changing my business model. It is part of the next stage of our family’s master plan of designing our ideal life.

In order to reach for something big, something we have never done before, something that would be a dream come true, there is going to be fear involved.

This is because it is unchartered territory. Out of our comfort zone. Has a bit of risk involved.

But here is the thing:

If we don’t learn how to deal with fear effectively it grabs us in a vice like grip and keeps us stuck.

And that is why I am on a mission to get us all to embrace fear more. To stop it holding us back from what we really want to shoot for.

It’s OK to feal fear. It’s normal. It’s not some big failure. What is important is how we respond to it.

We need to be committed to learning more about our mindset. What drives it? How do you upgrade it to something that serves us better?

Tips for learning to embrace fear

1. Make a decision that you are going to start embracing fear and stop it holding you back.

2. Ask yourself this question:

What needs to happen so that the fear you are feeling is addressed or managed so that you can move forward?

Focus on nailing that.

3. Identify the source of your fear and deal with it fully.

4. Don’t be a Lone Ranger. Get support from a trusted family member or friend. Hire a coach, mentor or therapist.

Learning to deal with fear is liberating and will unshackle the chains of mediocrity so you can make things how you really want them.

Is fear something you find gets in your way or do you find it easy to deal with? Please share you views below.

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  • Hello Ali,

    I just discovered you over at Heather Bestel’s blog. She’s such a dear friend and a wonderful role model. And she doesn’t let the “F” word stand in her way, that’s for sure! 🙂

    You’re right. Fear can be crippling — even debilitating. It looms over us like a scary monster or a dark ominous cloud. Sometimes just the fear of combating fear will plant your feet in quicksand!

    “Perfectionism” does play a role. No question about it. And I should know. I refer to myself as a “recovering perfectionist”. 🙂

    Awesome post!

  • Hi Melanie,
    Welcome to the site. Good to meet you. Can totally relate to the recovering perfectionist thing as I am one myself. I wrote a post about it a while back called “The Beauty of Imperfect Action”. You can read it here http://alidavies.com/beauty-imperfect-action/

    Thanks for dropping by.

  • Cath

    Fear is like the test anxiety many of us faced in school. A little bit helps you to focus, too much and you lose your ability to concentrate.

    #3 is especially good. Identifying the source of your fear is the most important step toward conquering it.

    Good points, all!

  • Sharon

    Ali your honest post reaches into the heart of everyone on the planet. There is no one who escapes fear it is just that for some they are better able to embrace it with positivity and for others they just cannot embrace it at all, and this is where fear has the power to destroy. The destructive power of fear is what really makes my hair stand on end and boy is it a powerful beast. In working through my fears at the moment I find it a real bully to be honest. But at least I am trying to tame it even though it keeps escaping – I know sooner rather than later it will be. Really enjoyed the read. Take care.

  • If we can look at fear and “ask what is the message here, what do I need to learn, what action do I need to take to revove it” we can deal with it more effectively and reduce the risk that it paralyses us

  • Sharon, I like your analogy of fear being like a bully. And bullies need to be stood up to and dealt with otherwise they do not stop. I think the other thing it is important to remember is that it is often us that give more power to our fears. A useful question to ask is “what can I do to eliminate the power this fear has over me?”
    I applaud you for working through your fears. We can only change what we are willing to face head on and deal with.

  • I know this is really boring and you are skipping to the next comment, but I just wanted to throw you a big thanks – you cleared up some things for me!
    Lynne

  • Thanks for the feedback Lynne. I am delighted the post helped you clear some things up.

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