Would you like to create change in your life and/or work but feel that fear is keeping you stuck? If so, you are not alone. It is very common for people to feel stuck because the fear of creating change has got a vice like grip of them. As a result they don't take the actions that will turn the change they want to create into reality. The reasons for fear can be many and varied. Things like fear of failure, fear of the unknown, fear of what others might think, fear of financial implications, fear of lack of skills and so on.

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5 Steps to Deal with Fear of Change Effectively

How to deal with fear of changeWould you like to create change in your life, work or business but feel that fear is keeping you stuck?

If so, you are not alone.

It is very common for people to feel stuck because the fear of creating change has got a vice like grip on them.

As a result they don’t take the actions that will turn the change they want to create into reality.

The reasons for fear of change can be many and varied. Things like fear of failure, fear of the unknown, fear of what others might think, fear of financial implications, fear of lack of skills and so on.

But it is important to remember that fear can actually be useful in the quest for creating change in your life and work.

It is perfectly normal to feel fear when you are doing something new or stepping outside your comfort zone. It alerts you to potential dangers and highlights areas where care, attention, preparation and action are required. This focus can help with ensuring the changes you want to make are more likely to be successful. All good stuff.

Fear only becomes a problem when it becomes so consuming that it stops you from moving forward and taking action.

When that happens, and fear is keeping you stuck from shooting for the changes you would really like to have happen, it is useful to have a way to deal with that.

Here is an exercise to help you get started with that process:

5 Steps to Deal with Fear of Change Effectively

Step 1 – Get a blank piece of paper. At the top write a change you would like to create in your life and/or work.

Step 2 – List down all the things that you fear about that change.

Step 3 – For each point on your list, write down what would have to be in place to deal with that fear so that it doesn’t keep you stuck and you can move forward, despite feeling fearful.

Step 4 – Next, for each of the things you have highlighted in step 3, work out a step-by-step action plan to deal with those things. Make sure you schedule your action plan into your diary or planner with set dates and times of when you are doing them.

Step 5 – Review and revise your list and action plan regularly and tweak and change as appropriate.

As you take action, build momentum and put practical and tangible things in place to deal with your fears you will find it easier to stop the fear keeping you stuck and enable you to move forward.

Fear isn’t what is keeping you stuck. Doing nothing about it is what is keeping you stuck.

Taking action to deal with the fears you have about creating change will foster courage. And courage combined with action is a powerful antidote in the fight against fear that keeps you stuck.

So use the exercise above to help you get clarity on the fears you have around creating change in your life and/or work. Create an effective action plan to get yourself unstuck and start to turn the changes your want to have happen into reality.

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  • I find as I get older that it gets easier to conquer my fears. They no longer stop me from doing the things that I really want to do. I always ask myself, “what is the worst that can happen?” and it usually isn’t that bad.

  • Ali Davies

    That is a great question to ask yourself Judy and one I also use whenever I am considering a change or working out if a risk is worth taking. It then alllows for action to taken to deal with those things proactively.

  • Leanne@crestingthehill

    these are such good points Ali – addressing your fears and looking for concrete solutions to them is such a great way of moving forward rather than treading water because you’re too scared to change.

  • You are so right Leanne – important to be willing to deal with things proactively.

  • Excellent, practical strategies – thank you for this thoughtful and inspirational post.

  • Thank you Laurel. I am delighted you found it useful.

  • It’s a very eye-opening thing to look right at the thing, there on a page, that’s stopping you from something you want. Hard not to take action, or at least think about it. Nice post, Ali.

  • Hi Susan, you are right – staring it straight in the face on a page is very powerful. Then it is a choice to act, or settle for the status quo!

  • I love your thoughts and ideas on this subject of fear and change. It’s such an important part of living a happy life. Thanks!

  • Thanks Wendy. Glad you enjoyed it.

  • Marie Mack

    I love this reminder! It is so important to learn to embrace fear and use it to propel you forwards instead of letting it paralyze you and keep you from changing anything.

  • I totally agree Marie. realising we have a choice when fear grabs us is powerful awareness to have.

  • Michelle

    I have been shrouded in fear for a long time now. Thank you for this. I am going to make my list tonight.

  • Michelle, so pleased that doing the list exericse is something you feel will help you take a step to get unstuck. Best wishes to you as you take action to deal with your fears.

  • So true about fear keeping you immobile. And admitting it is fear that is the problem. Great points!!

  • Yes indeed – we need to be able to admit to the fear in order to deal with it and stop it getting in the way of moving forward.

  • C Renee Cumberworth

    Fear is what kept me in a marriage for 20 years. Thanks for sharing your insight- As I start over at 51 this is a great exercise to get me moving forward

  • Diane Tolley

    This is so good! Get out there and do something about it.
    Like plunging in that cold lake every summer. After the first dip, you realize change wasn’t as bad as you thought . . .

  • Wishing you well as your start over.

  • Love that analogy Diane. Spot on.

  • Rena, wishing you well as you deal with this. I know it isn’t easy, but it is so worthwhile to learn how to deal with feelings of fear effectively.

  • Renee L Stambaugh

    Fear isn’t keeping me stuck right now…something is, but it’s not fear…I will make an action plan to get unstuck…

  • Roxanne Jones

    When I feel scared, I often ask myself “What’s the worst that could happen?” And it’s rarely as bad as all that–in fact, most of my “fears” end up being pretty ridiculous when I really think it through. It’s empowering to just let it go. Another great post, Ali!

  • Renee, getting into action makes a big difference. Wishing you well as you create your action plan.

  • Roxanne, that is such an important question to ask. Not only does it help us to manage our fear, it also supports us in proactively putting contingency plans in place that will support us as we move forward.