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An Important Key to Personal Fulfillment

The Key to Personal Fulfillment

There are many factors that contribute to personal fulfillment.

But there is one that I want to shine a light on because it is often overlooked but has a massive impact.

It permeates all areas of life, work, business, and relationships.

Because it is so widely accepted by everyone, it’s role in stealing your personal fulfillment is often invisible.

It is this:

Settling for normal.

Here’s how settling for normal is contributing to whether you feel personal fulfillment or not.

All “normal” is, are actions and behaviours that have been repeated so many times that they have become expected. Conforming to the status quo becomes what we accept as normal.

But just because it is defined as normal by others, society, or organisations doesn’t necessary make it right for you! It might even be a normal you have created for yourself that is self sabotaging.

For example, our society accepts as “normal” working long hours despite it negatively impacting so many things, like health, wellbeing, family life and relationships. Plus research is increasingly showing that working long hours makes you less effective and reduces the quality of work, decisions, creativity etc.

It being accepted as normal doesn’t make it right.

The bottom line is this:

Normal is just an action or behaviour that has become expected and accepted as the status quo.

The problem with settling for “normal” (as defined by the status quo) in relation to your personal fulfillment is this:

What is classed as normal might not reflect your values. It might not reflect what is most important to you. It might not be the way you want to live and work. It could even be toxic to your mental and physical wellbeing.

What you settle for as normal has a big impact on your personal fulfillment.

If you settle for the status quo that compromises your values, what matters most to you and the life and work you really want, then you are sacrificing your personal fulfillment (and potentially your mental and physical wellbeing).

Personal fulfillment naturally happens when you align all areas of life, work and relationships around your values, your own definition of success and what is most important to you.

So here is an important key to boosting your feelings of personal fulfillment:

Define your own normal based on your values, your own definition of success and what is most important to you.

Align every area of your life, work and relationships around that. It will put you on a much stronger path to achieving personal fulfillment and create the life and results you most want to achieve.

Review the status quo in your life and work regularly. Challenge yourself to assess if you are settling for a “normal” that no longer serves you.

Identify what is draining your personal fulfillment. Take action to deal with those things.

Challenging the status quo to identify improvement and where progress can be made is a healthy thing to do. Almost like a health check for your life, work and realtionships.

It could make all the difference to your personal fulfillment.

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  • Terrific ideas Ali. I think people often over look these things, but that fundamental research is definitely the key to success. I know it’s something that I definitely need to work on.

  • Hi Rena, good to work on this regulalrly, just to make sure you are not settling for what doesn’t serve you.

  • Marie Mack

    This is such a great post. Like you said, t is so important to remember that you don’t have to settle for what society views as “normal” and you should do what satisfies your needs and values and makes you happy.

  • Hi Marie, yes indeed. If we don’t design success for ourselves based on our values we end up living by the values of others.

  • Roxanne Jones

    One of the best things about being self-employed is being able to define “normal” for myself. In fact, it was the “normal” of my last corporate job (long days, the expectation that you’d kiss ass to get ahead, overlooking bad behavior by bosses) that motivated me to take the leap to being my own boss. That was 21 years ago, and I’ve never looked back. Thanks for the affirmation!

  • Hi Roxanne, snap! I left the corporate world 15 years ago to set up my own business. The freedom is priceless.