In the post Why Work Life Balance is Misleading. we looked at how focussing on the phrase work life balance could be guiding your focus and actions down a route that won’t deliver what you really want for yourself.
What is a more effective alternative?
Start by dropping the word balance!
Balancing work, family life, personal life and living life fully isn’t the answer to achieving success on your own terms.
Let me share a personal example:
My marriage, being a parent to my son and living life fully is way, way more important to me than work. It isn’t that I don’t like my work – I love it. However, there is no way I want it to balance with the things I value most.
Balancing every aspect of my life isn’t and never will be my objective.
My objective is to ensure the most important roles in my life are protected and the roles that are less important don’t negatively impact them. Take a look at your own situation – do you compromise on what is most important to you because your are trying to create balance?
If not work-life balance, then what?
The key here is to focus on designing how you really want things to be, not balance them. If you focus on designing each aspect of your life starting with the most important and building the rest around it, then you will be on the road to creating success on your own terms.
Here are few actions you can take right now that will get you started on this.
Important note: imagine you have no limitations at all when doing this exercise. Don’t think to much about it, go with your gut:
- Write a list of all your roles in life e.g. business owner, spouse/partner, parent, friend, and so on.
- Put them in a priority order based on what you value most and what is most important to you – don’t compromise!
- For each role, write out what it looks like when it is absolutely the way you want it to be – be specific.
Once you have done that, start looking for ways you can start turning that into reality. If you don’t know how just start by researching, committing to learning how, getting support etc.
You have just created the foundation on which you will design your life and re-define your work to live and work on your own terms – by design.
It is living by design, not chasing balance, that will deliver the life and results you really want.
In this post – Goodbye work life balance! Hello success by design! we delve into actions you can take to turn this foundation into reality and make balance a thing of the past.
Would love to hear your feedback on dropping “balance” in favour of “success by design”. You can leave your comments on this below.