Creating awareness of the things that might be holding you back, and finding ways to stop doing them, can change your life.
4 things to stop doing at midlife and beyond that will change your life
1. Stop telling yourself you are too old or it is too late to change your life
It is important to stop telling yourself that you are too old or it is too late to change your life because what you believe becomes your reality. Here’s why:
Your actions are driven by what you believe or tell yourself. And it is action that creates change and results.
So if you are telling yourself you are too old or it is too late to create change you are unlikely to take any action or to try to find ways to change. As a result you stay stuck.
On the other hand, if you choose to believe that you are not too old to design the life you want and believe that it is not too late to create change then you are lot more likely to look for ways to create change and to take new action. And new action = new results and new outcomes.
For example, one of my clients was 76 when she totally changed her life and work with great success. Read her inspiring story here.
Tip: stop telling yourself you are too old or it is too late to design your life at midlife and beyond. It doesn’t serve you. Take some time to get clear on how you want things to be and start working on finding ways to make that your reality.
2. Stop living someone else’s life
Reflecting on your life when you get to midlife and beyond may make you realise that you aren’t living the life you really want. The reasons for this can be many, varied and complex.
Maybe you feel that that you have been living the life other people wanted you to, or expected you too, for a long time.
Or maybe you are living a life that you chose when you were younger but it no longer serves you.
This can lead to feeling unfulfilled or that life is passing you by or being wasted. Or maybe you feel regret that you didn’t follow a different path in your life or work.
Tip: start living a life you have designed based on your values, your own definition of success and a clear vision of what you want to create. That is the foundation for building a fulfilling life.
3. Stop listening to negativity, naysayers and unconstructive criticism
When you want to create some kind of change in your life or work at midlife and beyond, listening to negativity, doom-mongers and unconstructive criticism can really hold you back.
It can create feelings of fear, doubt and uncertainty. It can suck the life out of you.
Listening to that stuff does the same to your mindset as drinking poison does to your body. And that is a big problem because the strength and health of your mindset is crucial if you have decided to design a different path for your life at midlife and beyond.
Tip: Read Be Careful who you listen to for more on this. Surround yourself with positive people who support you and are constructive in their communication. Set strong boundaries to protect yourself and your mindset from negative people, naysayers and unconstructive criticism. Choose wisely what you tell to who!
4. Stop neglecting your health and wellbeing – physical, mental and emotional
It takes a lot of additional physical and mental energy to design your life, create change that lasts and take action consistently and persistently during midlife and beyond. And your energy levels come from your level of health and wellbeing.
So if you are neglecting yourself you are not setting yourself up to succeed. Prioritising your health and wellbeing is an essential part of successfully navigating periods of change and transition in your life and creating better results.
Tip: take an audit of all areas of your mental, physical and emotional health. What needs to happen, change or improve so you can optimise your health, wellbeing and energy levels? Create a plan of action and implement it.
Take some time to reflect on other things you need to stop doing that are getting in the way of having the life you want at midlife and beyond. Commit to taking action to deal with them. Create a plan. Implement it. Stop getting in your own way!