Taking time to stop and reflect on things you are doing that might be getting in the way of having the life you really want at midlife and beyond is a healthy thing to do. Creating awareness of the things that might be holding you back, and finding ways to stop doing them, can change your life. Here are 4 things to stop doing at midlife and beyond that will change your life

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4 things to stop doing at midlife and beyond that will change your life

The things you need to stop doingTaking time to stop and reflect on things you are doing that might be getting in the way of having the life you really want at midlife and beyond is a healthy thing to do.

Creating awareness of the things that might be holding you back, and finding ways to stop doing them, can change your life.

Here are:

4 things to stop doing at midlife and beyond that will change your life

1. Stop telling yourself you are too old or it is too late to change your life

It is important to stop telling yourself that you are too old or it is too late to change your life because what you believe becomes your reality. Here’s why:

Your actions are driven by what you believe or tell yourself. And it is action that creates change and results.

So if you are telling yourself you are too old or it is too late to create change you are unlikely to take any action or to try to find ways to change. As a result you stay stuck.

On the other hand, if you choose to believe that you are not too old to design the life you want and believe that it is not too late to create change then you are lot more likely to look for ways to create change and to take new action. And new action = new results and new outcomes.

For example, one of my clients was 76 when she totally changed her life and work with great success. Read her inspiring story here.

Tip: stop telling yourself you are too old or it is too late to design your life at midlife and beyond. It doesn’t serve you. Take some time to get clear on how you want things to be and start working on finding ways to make that your reality.

2. Stop living someone else’s life

Reflecting on your life when you get to midlife and beyond may make you realise that you aren’t living the life you really want. The reasons for this can be many, varied and complex.

Maybe you feel that that you have been living the life other people wanted you to, or expected you too, for a long time.

Or maybe you are living a life that you chose when you were younger but it no longer serves you.

This can lead to feeling unfulfilled or that life is passing you by or being wasted. Or maybe you feel regret that you didn’t follow a different path in your life or work.

Tip: start living a life you have designed based on your values, your own definition of success and a clear vision of what you want to create. That is the foundation for building a fulfilling life.

3. Stop listening to negativity, naysayers and unconstructive criticism

When you want to create some kind of change in your life or work at midlife and beyond, listening to negativity, doom-mongers and unconstructive criticism can really hold you back.

It can create feelings of fear, doubt and uncertainty. It can suck the life out of you.

Listening to that stuff does the same to your mindset as drinking poison does to your body. And that is a big problem because the strength and health of your mindset is crucial if you have decided to design a different path for your life at midlife and beyond.

Tip: Read Be Careful who you listen to for more on this. Surround yourself with positive people who support you and are constructive in their communication. Set strong boundaries to protect yourself and your mindset from negative people, naysayers and unconstructive criticism. Choose wisely what you tell to who!

4. Stop neglecting your health and wellbeing – physical, mental and emotional

It takes a lot of additional physical and mental energy to design your life, create change that lasts and take action consistently and persistently during midlife and beyond. And your energy levels come from your level of health and wellbeing.

So if you are neglecting yourself you are not setting yourself up to succeed. Prioritising your health and wellbeing is an essential part of  successfully navigating periods of change and transition in your life and creating better results.

Tip: take an audit of all areas of your mental, physical and emotional health. What needs to happen, change or improve so you can optimise your health, wellbeing and energy levels? Create a plan of action and implement it.

Take some time to reflect on other things you need to stop doing that are getting in the way of having the life you want at midlife and beyond. Commit to taking action to deal with them. Create a plan. Implement it. Stop getting in your own way!

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  • Leanne@crestingthehill

    Ali – these were all so true! I think I have addressed very single one of them in the last six months (and will continue to do so for many months to come). There is a lot of stuff tucked away in my brain that I need to undo and replace with positives and your four points reinforced it! thanks Leanne

  • Leanne, congratulations on taking action to address these things. Have fun with it as you continue to replace old stuff with more positive stuff.

  • Ali, I have problems with all of these. The trouble is tackling them is made harder by the the “variations” of those issues. My variations. i.e. Not negative people but not supportive people either… etc. etc. I think you know what I mean. Thanks, Anita

  • Hi Anita, I can totally relate to what you are saying. When dealing with variations on the same theme it can help to break it down into smaller chunks to tackle and just start dealing with it step by step. That sometimes feels easier and more doable than tackling the whole topic at once.

  • Fantastic post. You’ve given a real step by step approach to making positive change!

  • Thanks Wendy. Delighted you enjoyed it.

  • Sharon Jackson

    Preaching to the choir Ali 🙂 I’m glad to say I am doing all the right things you said above. Only in the last year or so though, but at least I am on the right track. Sharing around for the friends who need a gentle nudge

  • Sahron, great to hear you have been taking action and feel on the right track. Delighted for you. And thanks for sharing my article with your friends.

  • Travels with Tam

    I agree 100% with all four. Age? What’s that?

  • Exactly! Just a number.

  • Such great ideas, thank you for sharing.

  • Thanks Rena. Glad you found it useful.

  • Very interesting the things the harmful things we say to ourselves. It’s important to recognize it and then change it. Great advice Ali!

  • Hi Carol, yes indeed. The words we say to ourselves have a massive impact on so many things on so many different levels.

  • CathyLynchLawdanski

    Good thoughts. It’s easy to fall into the “I’m too old” trap. Thanks for the reminder!

  • Hi Cathy, so glad you found this a useful reminder.

  • 1010 Park Place

    It’s the implementation and following through that’s the hard part. xoxox

  • Hi Brenda, you are so right. I think that is because we are trying to change deeply ingrained habits and mindsets. And that takes time, patience, commitment and hard work. But so worth it for those who perserve and stick with it.

  • Stephanie_The_Recipe_Renovator

    Such a great post. I completely agree… I truly feel that age is in your mind. That you can be young at all ages, and old at any age too. It’s all about mindset.

  • Well said Stephanie. Totally agree.