If you want to become more effective so that you can achieve your goals faster, easier and consistently, it is well worth studying the habits and behaviours that highly effective people have.
You can find clues just by listening to the language that they use. It gives great insights into the mindset, habits and behaviours that are driving their actions.
Equally, you can learn a lot by what you never hear them say.
4 things highly effective people never say:
1. I don’t have enough time
Highly effective people know that getting the results they want doesn’t depend on time. It depends on them. They are masters at managing themselves.
They set strong boundaries to protect their time. They foster the habit of self discipline to stay focused on what is most important and to eliminate distractions.
Highly effective people have the same amount of time as you do. So not having enough time isn’t the problem. How you are managing yourself is the differentiating factor between whether you are effective or not. For more on this read Busting the “I don’t have enough time” myth.
2. If it wasn’t for ………… there wouldn’t be a problem (insert blame or excuse of your choice e.g. the economy, working too many hours, lack of support etc)
Highly effective people don’t blame or make excuses. They take 100% responsibility for everything that is going on in their lives. They know that blaming and making excuses solves nothing and would keep them stuck, so they don’t do it. They are solution focused, not problem focused.
3. I don’t know how
Highly effective people get that if they are creating change, trying something new or moving in new directions that they don’t know how to do it to start with. But they don’t focus on that. They focus on finding a way. They experiment. They look for what they need to learn. They are solution and outcome focused.
4. I failed
Highly effective people don’t view something not working out as failure. They get that sometimes we screw up. Sometimes we make mistakes. Sometimes something doesn’t work as we had hoped.
They see these things as part of the process of creating better results. They get that success isn’t a linear path. When something doesn’t work they focus on learning the lesson, applying the learning, looking for solutions and then moving on.
Check out some highly effective people that you admire. Observe what sorts of things you hear them saying and the sorts of things you never hear them saying. It will give you great insights into the mindset, habits and behaviour that make them highly effective.
Then, look at the things you say, or don’t say, for clues for how you might be sabotaging your own personal effectiveness and where you might need to upgrade your mindset, habits and behaviours.