Your habits have a major impact on the results you get in your life. That is why focussing on creating good habits is such a powerful way to transform your life and get the results you really want, easier and consistently. It is also why focussing on identifying and forming the habits that will support you in achieving your goals is so powerful too. However, the flip side is equally true. Some habits will keep you stuck.

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4 habits that are keeping you stuck

4 habits that will keep you stuckYour habits have a major impact on the results you get in your life.

That is why focussing on identifying and creating good habits is such a powerful way to transform your life and get the results you really want, easier and consistently.

However, the flip side is equally true. Some habits will keep you stuck.

So it is important to be aware of what habits you have that might be self-sabotaging.

Once you are aware of them and how they are keeping you stuck, you can start to take action to replace those habits with new habits that serve you better.

Here are 4 habits that will keep you stuck

1. Making excuses

When you have a habit of making excuses you are keeping yourself stuck. Here’s why:

Let’s say, for example, you want to change something in your life but you tell yourself “I don’t know how” or you want to achieve a new goal but you keep saying “I don’t have enough time.”

Those are excuses. You are giving yourself a reason to justify not taking action. You are letting yourself off the hook from finding a way forward. And taking no action will stop you from getting the results you really want and, therefore, will keep you stuck.

Make a commitment to become an excuse free zone. Being an excuse free zone is a powerful weapon in the fight for the results you really want to create.

2. Negative self-talk

The habit of negative self-talk is a killer of fulfillment and progress because the more you talk yourself down, the less likely you are to believe in yourself, and the less you believe in yourself the less likely you are to take action to move yourself forward.

Finding a way to break the habit of negative self-talk is hugely liberating. It allows you to get out of your own way so that you can move forward from a place of positive self-belief and possibility.

3. Blaming

Blaming serves no useful purpose. Yet when setbacks happen or something goes wrong often the first port of call for many people is the habit of leaping to blaming something or someone.

But blaming doesn’t create solutions.

Commit to eradicating the blame game. Instead, foster a habit of becoming a solution focussed person. Not only will it get you unstuck and transform your results, it will transform your relationships too.

4. Making assumptions

The problem with making assumptions is that once made, you then act as if that assumption is true.

But assumptions can be wrong, and very often are.

This can be disastrous for creating the life you want and can wreak all kinds of damage on your relationships too.

Keep in mind that there are probably dozens of assumptions you could make about that very same situation. But the one you choose will have a direct impact on what action you take next.

For example, say you make an assumption that a change you want to create in your life won’t work, or that you can’t do it. Or maybe you make a negative assumption about someone in your life and why they did something.

Once you have made those assumptions you will act as if it is fact. And that will not only keep you stuck, but it could make the situation worse.

When you look at something from an assumption, it is a very narrow view. You are missing all sorts of other options and possibilities that might serve you and the situation better.

Challenge your assumptions. Work on breaking that habit because it doesn’t serve you or your life well.

Is deconstructing old self sabotaging habits and replacing them with new habits easy?

No. It can be hard work. It takes time, patience and commitment.

That said, it is totally worth the effort it takes in order to eliminate habits that are keeping you stuck and to set yourself up to achieve the results you really want easier and consistently.

So take a bit of an audit of yourself.

What habits are keeping you stuck? What habits keep sabotaging the results you really want to create? What steps do you need to start taking to stop doing what is keeping you stuck? What habits would serve you better and support you in getting the results you really want easier and consistently? What action will you take to start creating those good habits?

Never underestimate the power of habits in either transforming your life or keeping you stuck.

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  • Great points Ali. I feel that things move so fast that I don’t notice these habits until I take my re-group time (try to do this once per week). Whilst I have a plan and goals, technology moves so fast that I must take 1 hour per week to catch my breath and review my goals. This article was read while I was doing that and reminded me that some of these habits are ingrained… but I will be printing these to look at each day.

    – just a side note – a like the new direction your practice is taking… very exciting!

  • Ali Davies

    Hi Wendy, you make a great point about the busyness of life often masking deeply ingrained habits that don’t serve us well. The key is to do exactly what you are doing – make some time and space to create awareness and then look for the first steps to create change.

  • All great tips. I’m due for an audit and #1 is screaming my name!! I feel like I make some progress, then slip right back to the bad habits. The negative self talk is a tough one too.

  • Ali Davies

    Hi Jennifer, ah yes, magic happens when you become an excuse free zone. Have fun with your audit and keep in mind the path of creating new habits isn’t a linear one.
    Be kind to yourself as you navigate the path of change.

  • Okay, Monday I decided I would start going to the gym five days a week. Waking up today – Thursday – I decided four might be okay. think it’s time for me to go through your list. Thanks for that – just what I needed.

  • Ali Davies

    Hi Candace, I think it is really useful to start with small baby steps and build up gradually. It helps us with setting ourselves up to succeed and motivation too. So glad you found the article useful.

  • heathertruett

    Habit is on my mind a lot lately. I am definitely stuck in some that aren’t pushing me forward.

  • Great that you have that awareness Heather. Awareness is the first step in creating change. Wishing you well as change those habits that don’t serve you into ones that do.

  • I need to make sme new good habits and dump several that are not helping me. It’s so easy to make excuses.

  • Making excuses is one of the ways we hold ourselves back. That is why I am a big beleiver in committing to becoming an excuse free zone. Have fun with your new habit creations Jennifer. It really does make life so much easier and generates better results, so it is something well worth investing the time and effort in.

  • Katy Kozee

    I am the queen of negative self-talk! I’m trying to learn now to just ignore the voices, but I would really like to learn how to quiet them or even to replace them with positive ones. So hard!

  • Katy, changing mindset habits can be very challenging, but it can be done. I think the important thing to remember in a world that wants now, fast and easy, is that creating change that lasts takes time, patience, commitment and hard work – and it isn’t a linear path either. With that said, it is totally worth the effort as the benefits are so many. I totally admire that you are open to learning how to do it.

  • Karen Shatafian

    Negative self talk is my downfall. You are so right that it makes us believe less in ourselves. I have to remind myself daily to not buy into my own self sabotage! Once I am mindful of it, I can kick my inner critic to the curb.

  • Yes, that inner critic can wreak havoc. So important to learn how to de-construct those habits and construct ones that support and serve you. Good that you have a mechanism to catch yourself doing it.

  • Hi Ali,
    I’m writing a post on similar topics this weekend. I’ll l ink to you tomorrow.
    Janice

  • Thanks Janice. I am glad you enjoyed the article.

  • These are four of many bad habits I struggle alot with, I need to make more of an effort to break them for good.

  • Hi Rena, it is great that you have that awareness, as awareness is the first step is creating change. Wishing you well as you work on creating habits that serve you better.