That is why focussing on identifying and creating good habits is such a powerful way to transform your life and get the results you really want, easier and consistently.
However, the flip side is equally true. Some habits will keep you stuck.
So it is important to be aware of what habits you have that might be self-sabotaging.
Once you are aware of them and how they are keeping you stuck, you can start to take action to replace those habits with new habits that serve you better.
Here are 4 habits that will keep you stuck
1. Making excuses
When you have a habit of making excuses you are keeping yourself stuck. Here’s why:
Let’s say, for example, you want to change something in your life but you tell yourself “I don’t know how” or you want to achieve a new goal but you keep saying “I don’t have enough time.”
Those are excuses. You are giving yourself a reason to justify not taking action. You are letting yourself off the hook from finding a way forward. And taking no action will stop you from getting the results you really want and, therefore, will keep you stuck.
Make a commitment to become an excuse free zone. Being an excuse free zone is a powerful weapon in the fight for the results you really want to create.
2. Negative self-talk
The habit of negative self-talk is a killer of fulfillment and progress because the more you talk yourself down, the less likely you are to believe in yourself, and the less you believe in yourself the less likely you are to take action to move yourself forward.
Finding a way to break the habit of negative self-talk is hugely liberating. It allows you to get out of your own way so that you can move forward from a place of positive self-belief and possibility.
Blaming serves no useful purpose. Yet when setbacks happen or something goes wrong often the first port of call for many people is the habit of leaping to blaming something or someone.
But blaming doesn’t create solutions.
Commit to eradicating the blame game. Instead, foster a habit of becoming a solution focussed person. Not only will it get you unstuck and transform your results, it will transform your relationships too.
4. Making assumptions
The problem with making assumptions is that once made, you then act as if that assumption is true.
But assumptions can be wrong, and very often are.
This can be disastrous for creating the life you want and can wreak all kinds of damage on your relationships too.
Keep in mind that there are probably dozens of assumptions you could make about that very same situation. But the one you choose will have a direct impact on what action you take next.
For example, say you make an assumption that a change you want to create in your life won’t work, or that you can’t do it. Or maybe you make a negative assumption about someone in your life and why they did something.
Once you have made those assumptions you will act as if it is fact. And that will not only keep you stuck, but it could make the situation worse.
When you look at something from an assumption, it is a very narrow view. You are missing all sorts of other options and possibilities that might serve you and the situation better.
Challenge your assumptions. Work on breaking that habit because it doesn’t serve you or your life well.
Is deconstructing old self sabotaging habits and replacing them with new habits easy?
No. It can be hard work. It takes time, patience and commitment.
That said, it is totally worth the effort it takes in order to eliminate habits that are keeping you stuck and to set yourself up to achieve the results you really want easier and consistently.
So take a bit of an audit of yourself.
What habits are keeping you stuck? What habits keep sabotaging the results you really want to create? What steps do you need to start taking to stop doing what is keeping you stuck? What habits would serve you better and support you in getting the results you really want easier and consistently? What action will you take to start creating those good habits?