Creating change in your life or work can sometimes feel like a massive mountain to climb. As a result it can feel really hard going. It is easy to end up feeling totally stuck and overwhelmed with it all. You might even feel you want to give up. When that happens it is really important to take action to make the path of change easier and more enjoyable to navigate. To help you with that, here are 3 tips for when creating change feels really hard.

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3 Tips For When Creating Change Feels Really Hard

Creating change feels hardCreating change in your life or work can sometimes feel like a massive mountain to climb.

As a result it can feel really hard going. It is easy to end up feeling totally stuck and overwhelmed with it all. You might even feel you want to give up.

When that happens it is really important to take action to make the path of change easier and more enjoyable to navigate.

To help you with that, here are:

3 tips for when creating change feels really hard

1. Break it down to the smallest possible next step

If you are focusing on everything you need to do then of course it is going to feel really hard and overwhelming. Stop doing that. Instead, break everything down into the smallest possible next step:

  • List down everything you can think of that you need to do to achieve that change.
  • Then put them into a prioritised order that those things need doing in.
  • Pick the first thing on the list. Break it down into tiny steps.
  • Then just take the next step, then the next, and so on.

“The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret of getting started is breaking your complex, overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks, and then starting on the first one.” – Mark Twain

Stay focused on taking the next small steps consistently and persistently.

This is powerful because it makes the whole change process feel a whole load easier and manageable. It also creates momentum. And momentum is a powerful tool when navigating a path of change.

2. Re-frame your mindset

When creating change feels like a mountain to climb, do what climbers do:

Stop looking at the top of the mountain!

Once a climber has decided which mountain they are climbing and planned a route, they don’t stand at the bottom gazing at the top obsessing about how hard it is or how they will do every single step.

They just focus on the next few steps in front of them to be climbed. The same applies to you if you want to create change.

Once you have done point one above and worked out your route and the steps to get there, stop looking at the top of your mountain. Instead focus on the next few steps. Get them safely done. Then focus on the next few steps.

Focusing on the whole thing all the time will add to your feelings of overwhelm and it being really hard.

3. Celebrate progress, every step of the way.

If you are always focusing on how far you still have to go to create the change you want to have happen then you are going to end up very demotivated and, possibly, might even give up.

A great way to reduce that risk is to celebrate your progress, every step of the way.

Yes, you might still have three quarters of the mountain to climb, but look how far you have come since you started. Look at what has gone well. Look at setbacks and obstacles that you already dealt with and moved past. Look at the small steps you have just taken that have moved you that bit closer to achieving your goal.

Celebrating progress is a great way to keep motivation going and keeping a sense of perspective. Plus, it is good to inject some fun along the way. Make sure you celebrate progress regularly, no matter how small it is.

So have a think about a change you are currently making or would like to make. How might the three tips above help you create your change easier, with less overwhelm and make it a more enjoyable journey?

Share your answer to this question in the comments section below.

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  • carla birnberg

    Ahhhh. Today. I. Needed. This.

  • I like this. Change *can* feel insurmountable. Breaking it down, reframing your focus, and celebrating your forward movement are all worthy strategies. I too often beat myself up or say self-defeating things. Unproductive!

  • Cathy Chester

    This is exactly what I needed to read! Were you reading my mind? 🙂 I need to make some changes and have been thinking about it all weekend. Now I have an Ali Davies plan for it!

  • Cathy, delighted this was useful to you. Wishing you well with the changes you are about to make happen.

  • Susan, it is great that you have that awareness about yourself as awareness is the first step in creating change. From awareness you can move foward and create new habits that serve your better.

  • Carla, so pleased you found this when you needed it. Onwards and upwards!

  • These are the perfect mind-sets for getting ready to sell our house–the house stuffed with 40 years of memories and lives lived there. I had to break down the cleaning and clearing into a Bag a Day diet.

  • Like that bag a day strategy. Small steps taken regularly is a great approach. Wishing you well as you move to a new place.

  • Great tips. I also plan small rewards for myself as I reach certain milestones along the path.

  • Love that Beverly. So important yet often overlooked.

  • Lee Gaitan

    Very good tips/reminders. Breaking it down into steps, interim rewards and just getting started–simple but crucial and sometimes so hard to do. Thanks for the encouragement!

  • This is exactly the approach I was trained to take when teaching the homeless, mentally ill, and addicted people I used to work with. But of course, applying it to my own life is not always so easy. This was a great breakdown of the process and an inspiration for the changes I want to make.

  • You hit a really important point there Anita – the process of change is quite linear. However, people aren’t linear and the path of life isn’t linear either which is what can make change feel hard and challenging. Glad you found this an inspiration for the changes you are about to make happen.

  • Judy Krell Freedman

    I have to listen to these steps. I’ve feel like I’m an ongoing work in progress. It’s difficult to change my Type A personality and slow down after being a workaholic all my life. I’m trying! Thanks for sharing your wise advice.

  • I think we are all a work in progress our whole lives Judy. Glad you found this article useful. Working intentional on forming new habits can really help in the battle to change behaviour.

  • sdgrant71

    I had to face the basic truth that I didn’t paid enough attention to my health. All I can say is that it’s luck and genes or something that things aren’t worse than they are, but I do have several things that have to change, like now. It took a while, but I did learn that no matter how much I have to do I can only take one step at a time. Thank goodness for the lesson.

  • Absolutely right, taking a step by step approach is a powerful way to create change.

  • Marie Mack

    I love your recommendation to break change down into everything that needs to be accomplished. I find it so much easier and more attainable when I can think of things step by step.

  • Hi Marie, step by step is the way to go. So many benefits on so many different levels.

  • Great tips Ali! When I feel overwhelmed I try to do #1 breaking the huge things down into smaller steps. It helps!

  • Hi Rena, me too. It makes a big difference.