When you are creating change in your life, making mistakes is common. It comes with the territory! Thinking you will navigate creating change without making mistakes, is setting yourself up for disappointment and heartache. If you are being hard on yourself for making mistakes as you go about creating change, cut yourself some slack. It happens. We all make mistakes when we are working on creating change. You are not alone. However, there are some mistakes that are very common when navigating the path of change.

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10 biggest mistakes people make when creating change

10 biggest mistakes people make when creating changeWhen you are creating change in your life, making mistakes is common. It comes with the territory!

Thinking you will navigate creating change without making mistakes, is setting yourself up for disappointment and heartache.

If you are being hard on yourself for making mistakes as you go about creating change, cut yourself some slack. It happens. We all make mistakes when we are working on creating change. You are not alone.

However, there are some mistakes that are very common when navigating the path of change. If you are aware of what those are you can be proactive in taking action to avoid them.

To help you with that, here are:

10 biggest mistakes people make when creating change

1. Trying to change too much at once.

Creating change while you also still need to manage all your day to day responsibilities is a big ask. So trying to change too much at once isn’t a great idea. It can create stress, overwhelm, and be detrimental to progress. A helpful approach is to break the change you want to create into smaller phased mini projects and take a step-by-step approach.

2. Expecting change to happen quickly and easily.

We live in a world that wants now, fast and easy. But the reality of creating change is that it takes time, patience, hard work and commitment.

3. Listening to unconstructive criticism from unsupportive or negative people.

Listening to unconstructive criticism and negativity about the change you are making can knock you off track and be totally draining. So choose wisely who you share your plans with and who you listen to. Read Be Careful Who You Listen To for more on this subject.

4. Not building support around yourself.

Trying to create change without support is setting yourself up for a difficult ride. We all need support, especially for the times when creating change feels hard or hits rough patches. Surround yourself with positive, constructive people who will cheer you on and give you constructive support.

5. Not having an action plan and schedule.

If you don’t have a clear action plan that is then mapped into your schedule then you are risking not achieving the results you really want at all.

6. Not identifying what you need to learn.

People rarely stop and ask themselves “what do I need to learn to create this change successfully?” yet it is a really powerful thing to do. What comes out of asking yourself that question could be the difference between achieving the results you really want or not.

7. Not having a self care regime.

Creating change takes a lot of extra mental and physical energy. So taking good care of yourself to boost and maintain your energy is really important. Yet folks often treat it as a luxury. It isn’t. Prioritising self care has a direct impact on your personal effectiveness when creating change

8. Not celebrating progress.

If you are constantly looking at how far you still have to go it achieve the change you desire you can end up feeling demotivated and demoralised. A great way to combat this is to celebrate progress regularly, no matter how small it might be. It will help you see how far you have already come and that you are making progress. That will boost your motivation and moral as you continue on the path of change.

9. Being knocked off track by challenges and setbacks.

Chances are you will experience some kind of challenge or setback while you are creating change. Allowing that to knock you off track will sabotage your progress and, possibly, your results. Choose to respond to setbacks and challenges with this mantra:
Learn the lesson. Apply the learning. Move on.

10. Giving up when the going gets tough.

Change can feel hard, but that isn’t a reason to give up.

When creating change, it really helps to be proactive in identifying what you need to do to set yourself up to succeed. When you do that, include taking action to avoid making these 10 common mistakes.

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  • Laurie Oien

    I need to be better at celebrating progress. it’s hard for me to pat myself on the back or share those accomplishments with others, so I can feel the support. You list all good points. Thanks!

  • Hi Laurie, celebrating is a great habit to get into. Makes a big difference.

  • Sister in love just got some unconstructive criticism about change in her life and it really irritated me. On her behalf. good points here, Ali.

  • Hi Carol, sorry to hear your relative has been on the receiving end of some unconstructive criticism. Perhaps the link in number 3 would be of use!

  • I’m definitely guilt of #1 (trying to change too much at once) and #9 (getting off track with setbacks). Change is really hard, especially for some of the big issues in life. Great advice, Ali.

  • Hi Lisa, it is great that you have that awareness re. #1 and #9. Awareness is a great asset in the quest to create change. Glad you found the 10 points useful.

  • I often forget to celebrate change and just move on the the next thing. I very much agree that we should make time to acknowledge our achievements.

  • Diane Howell Topkis

    All really good points, Ali. One more I’ll add that I find helps my career coaching clients – understanding their underlying “why” for making the change helps keep them on track. When they veer off, they can go back and get reminded of the why.

  • Hi Margaretha, that is one that many folks forget or overlook so you are not alone. It can help to set a time each week in your schedule which is celebration time to help form it into a habit.

  • Hi Diane, well said. Being focussed on why an outcome is really important to you is a really big help when navigating change, especially during challenges or setbacks. .

  • That is a great idea!

  • It works a treat Margaretha. Have fun with it.

  • Elin Stebbins Waldal

    Great points all around, like others I also sometimes forget to take stock and celebrate accomplishments, it is so important! I’d like to add that sometimes the change we seek ends up netting negative or unexpected results (a job change as an example), when that happens it’s important to give yourself permission to redefine your “end in mind” to fit your new understanding, then move toward yet another change.

  • Great point Elin.

  • Right on Ali. I love your list!

  • Thanks Nancy. Glad you enjoyed it.